Before You Plan That Vacation With Someone Ask Yourself These Questions
We are in the thick of summer, and a girls trip or family getaways can be refreshing to the soul. As long as you go with the RIGHT people. Not everyone is vacation compatible. I have been there, you invite friends with the best of intentions, and it becomes a disaster. I don't want you to endure that. I've learned my lesson, and I'm going to share with you some questions that you need to ask BEFORE the planning even begins.
1) What are your non-negotiable for travel and hotel?
You need to discuss this first and foremost. Everyone has different budgeting style when it comes to vacation. Some people don't mind cheaper airlines or hotel stays because they want most of their money to go towards food and activities. Some people love the feel of a little luxury on vacation and want everything to be five stars. It's IMPORTANT that you discuss with your potential vacation buddies what they like. a few key questions can be, "Does the hotel have to be nice for you?" Do you need your own room?" this lets you see what their non-negotiable are
2) Are they the type to go with the flow or need an itinerary?
I am a go with the flow type of girl, and so is my family. When we make it to our vacation spots we choose 1 or 2 tourists spots and the rest we fill up with just local things we find, or we walk around to see what we can get ourselves into. I LIKE to vacation that way. I have vacationed with some who love to have an itinerary, and for those friends, I go to places I have already been, and it's less stressful for me. I know the way my relaxation is set up; I don't want to walk around running from location to location to try and fit everything into one vacation. When planning, you need to be honest with yourself and figure out what type of vacationer you are. Now there is such a thing as too laid back for me. If I make a reservation and my friend is making us late, I will get a little peeved.
3) Are they cool with you having alone time, or do they want continuous group activities?
I am an outgoing person, but I love to get a little alone time while on vacation. I Love when everyone leaves for an activity, and I have the place to myself for a little bit, and I can read a book in silence. For some, what makes their vacation is being around their friends and loved ones 24/7. Think about it, if you are on holiday with four people and three off them love to be around people 24/7, and you like your alone time, someone's feelings are bound to be hurt and then your vacation is no longer fun. Who has time for all that? So before you make plans make sure that if you need your alone time, you make it known.
4) How Many people are going?
I have a six-person MAX for any vacation I am going on (excluding family vacations I may bump it up to 12 lol) I find that six is an excellent number because then people can be paired off and can do their own thing. You have to decide if you are ok with people adding a plus one onto the trip, having a large group of friends going to one place or if you want to keep it small and intimate. There was a vacation we were invited to go on, and it was a cruise before I even started planning I asked ‘How many people” The person replied the didn’t know, I knew right then that vacation was not for us. It turns out there were over 50 people who attended.
The location is an integral part of a vacation, but so is who you will be going with. The last thing you want to deal with is nonsense when you are trying to relax, relate, and release.
What has been one of your favorite vacations? let me know in the comments below