Friends - How many of us have them?
Follow my blog with Bloglovin The older I get the more I realize how truly blessed I am to have a core group of friends. Some of us have had a falling out and were able to reconcile MANY years later, Others I have known for almost a decade and we just GET one another. Some have left my life and I thank them for the good times I had with them but refuse to be used and torn down in the name of "friendship"
It takes growth for you as a person to realize just when a friendship should be said and done or if the pieces can be picked back up and you can start again. Each friendship is unique and that means you have to deal with them in different ways. The one common denominator is YOU. You have to make sure that YOU are worthy of friendship. The first person you should be friends with is yourself. We are all imperfect and have gone through things in life. Some more traumatic than others but trauma shapes us and it is up to us as individuals to make sure we take care of ourselves.
Recently in the news, it was said that Jada Pinkett Smith and Gabrielle Union would be doing a sit down on her show Red table talk and speak after a 17 yr fued. This was something I wanted to see. These women are in their 40's and I am always interested in seeing growth.
This particular friendship was not strong they were acquaintances that just had this awkwardness and there was def something to mend. There are so many good gems from this interview but my favorite line is:
"It's easier to control a victim than it is to control a healed evolved person"
This right here is so true. We need to look for the friendships that will allow us to grow and flourish. There is no need to tear down a person, if you are no longer friends then move on. If you run in the same circle you can be very cordial and nice. If you don't run in the same circle and you let that friendship go then truly let it go and be on your way to your best life. Do not for a moment regret letting go of friendships that held you back.
If you haven't seen this episode of Red table talk you are doing yourself a disservice. We all need little reminders that we can have some growth and make sure that we are being the best us that we can be. In order to do that you can't pour from an empty cistern. We need to practice self-care and make sure that we are well.